Your Best Family In 30 Days Pt3 – Blended, Mended, and Extended Families

By August 26, 2018Sermon Notes

CHAMPION CHURCH – YUMA • Pastor Stephen Bloomfield

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Your Best Family In 30 Days

“Out-do yourselves in honoring one another”  Romans 12:10
 “Serve one another humbly in love”                   Galatians 5:13 

Review:
Week one:  Things To Add to Your Family Now

  • God can change your family atmosphere today – habits take time, but the atmosphere can change immediately
  • God created family and cares about family
  • Add Honor and respect with your spouse
  • Add God to the top of your family
  • Add intentionality with your family

Week Two:  Things To Remove from Your Family

  • Selfishness
  • Swearing, sarcasm, etc
  • Dishonoring each other

This Week:

Blended, Mended, & Extended Families

  • 25% of children live in single parented homes
  • 4 of 10 kids born without a father in the home
  • 54% of children will live with only one parent
  • Over 50% of marriages fail
  • 75% of those people will remarry or cohabit in blended families

Types of rebuilt families:

  • “Blender” family – All thrown in together and expected to be like a smoothie
  • “Food Processor” family – Chopped up histories & hearts, mixed but without love
  • “Microwave” family – Ready in 5 minutes
  • “Pressure Cooker” family – constant unresolved emotions and issues
  • “Tossed Salad” family – Kids tossed around, displaced, without personal space, family position, or respect for possessions

6 STEPS TO HAPPY STEP-FAMILIES

  1. STEP DOWN your expectations. It takes TIME

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to uproot, a time to kill and a time to heal, a time to tear down and a time to build” Ecclesiastes 3:1-3

  1. Do the TWO-STEP:

Your marriage has to be healthy before your family can be.  Work together, be on the same team.

Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”  Ecclesiastes 4:12

  1. STEP IN LINE as a parental team.

All parents, including ex-spouses, must communicate and come to agreement on general rules, disciplines, and structure.  Everyone has to be willing, because a child NEEDS to love both their parents

“From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.”                                                 Ephesians 4:16

  1. SIDE STEP common pitfalls,

    Recognize loss and feelings, grief, etc
    •  Work out realistic financial options
    •  Keep traditions while making new ones

“For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it—”   Luke 14:28

  1. STEP THROUGH the wilderness with Trust and Determination

“When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; And through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, Nor shall the flame scorch you”.                                                              Isaiah 43:2 NKJV

  1. STEP UP your FAITH

  • Build your relationship and total dependence on Jesus Christ
  • Build your connections with other believers who will pray with and for you, stand with you in challenging times, and love you unconditionally

But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint.”              Isaiah 40:31

Further Study:

“Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.”                         Romans 14:13

“Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.”                                          Romans 15:7

“We ought always to thank God for you, brothers and sisters, and rightly so, because your faith is growing more and more, and the love all of you have for one another is increasing.”    2 Thessalonians 1:3

“Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. 24 And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another. “                            Hebrews 10:23-25  (NIV)

Teaching based on “The Smart Stepfamily” by Ron L Deal www.smartstepfamilies.com

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